Small Changes Go a Long Way: Modify These 5 Things in Your Life and Your Feminine Confidence Will Grow Accordingly
Most women are in charge of their house, family, and bringing home a paycheck. Some women handle the stress of being in charge or at least a co-partner in life, extremely well. Others simply hide the fact they are falling apart better than the rest.
It would be great to get away to a medical spa with board-certified dermatologists a few times a year, but not every woman can manage such a trip. Below are 5 things you can modify in your life so that your feminine confidence will grow.
- Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
When you compare yourself to others, you diminish all you have accomplished and all that you are. You are not someone else, you are you and to compare yourself to another is not going to help you at all. In fact, it is going to hurt your self-worth. Accepting who you are, what you are doing, where you are in life and your purpose and path is not always easy, but it is a necessary step to being the best you can be.
- Say "No" More
It is often difficult to say "no" when you want to please someone by helping them. But often when you do something you don't want to do, or you are spreading yourself too thin, you will become resentful and unhappy. Saying "no" may feel like you are rejecting the other person, but you are simply choosing yourself. It has little to do with the other person. You don't have to explain why you can't help someone, but if you feel you must, keep it simple and about you.
- Say "Thank You" Instead of "I'm Sorry"
Women tend to say they are sorry for things they have no control over, simply because they feel bad about something. Especially when we can't help someone or solve their problem. When you say "thank you, but…" and then give a brief explanation, you are not apologizing for anything. Many people hear you say "I'm sorry" and feel as if you are weak, although you are not, it gives that impression. Try rephrasing your answers without the "sorry" part.
- Set Small Goals
When you set enormous goals, you are setting yourself up for failure. And when you don't achieve your goals, you feel worse than before. Setting small goals allow you to obtain them and feel good about yourself. Writing these goals down each day or once a week, then crossing them off when you accomplish them, helps boost your self-esteem and helps you to continue doing better for yourself.
- Don't Put Yourself Down
We all make mistakes. There is no such thing as a perfect person. Along with not comparing yourself to others, give yourself a break. If you make a mistake, admit it and move on. Mistakes are the best way we learn. Don't dwell on the mistake or the past, it will keep you from moving forward.
The only one who can help you, the only one who can complete you, is you. When you take care of yourself, you will feel better about everything around you.